"Will I love the child?" "Will I be able to bond with them?" I get asked this a lot by women considering using an egg donor. These questions are heart-breaking. I often get a lump in my throat when I'm asked these questions because I know the place they are coming from. The woman asking is almost always broken; broken by the long and painful process of infertility. By the time a woman is considering egg donation she has usually tried for years to conceive with their own eggs and it has not worked.